That's what it's all about?!

This is the continuation of what I learned from painting the 2 rooms in my house.

First off, I thought without a guy or a strong helper I couldn't accomplish things like this in my home. Yes, I know I could pay someone for all the tough stuff. Is that how any of us want to spend our hard earned money? So, I went through a lot of self talk. My initial thoughts were "Someday when I find a strong helper......this is what I would do different to my house." This summer while painting a bookshelf is when I decided that thought process had to change.  What am I waiting for? If I want something do I need a prince charming. NO! So, as I finished the bookshelf I convinced myself......I can for sure paint walls other than the trim. The rest began to fall into place.

My cousin explained she wanted a break from everything.......her child, husband, job. Even if it was just for a night. I knew I could help her out with this. Anywhere and basically anytime she wanted to go, I'd be her companion. As we were talking over dinner she said, "I will come paint with you, I love to do trim." I asked her if she was certain? She was and it worked out pretty well aside from the fact that my painting project turned out to be 3-4 weeks longer than a weekend! As I was talking to another friend, she also said she enjoyed painting and would help out. I also had to ask for help to move large furniture away from the walls. I asked the neighbor guys which I only try to do once or twice a year. It takes a lot of convincing in my mind to allow friends to help me out. I truly want to know I am capable and don't want to inconvenience anyone.  I just keep telling myself this is apart of friendship and give and take that comes along with any relationship. They will all need me to help out or follow through with the good things I can offer to the friendship.

So, I learned that even though I'm "alone", I'm not alone. This was a pretty cool feeling to have. I totally worked slower as I was talking to my buddies/helpers. My cousin and I had hours to catch up on talking about every subject possible. We rarely stopped talking and covered all basis which felt good for both of us. My friend and I also had time to chat and many times we were interrupted by her cute/lively son who enjoyed sucking up cat hair with a large lint brush roller from my floor and furniture for hours. Having buddies come over and help make home improvements actually made my house feel like a home!

Since painting was a learning curve for me, it took me much longer than I thought it would. I also added on 2 pieces of furniture into the mix. I really enjoyed having a project on the weekends and after work to go to. Other than my job, I was doing something with purpose and I really liked this. I was on Facebook and Netflix a lot less and that's important to me.

I began to realize, this is my 30s. You see, without a big wedding to plan, adjusting to marriage, pregnancies or little scrubbers wandering around.....it's felt like, what's up with my 30s?  I don't regret not having what I don't have but for the vast majority of people these are the things occupying their time in their 30s. Without regrets, I've still gone through phases where I wonder what my purpose in life is? Should I run a business? Become a writer? What are my next set of goals?

Lately, I have noticed these feelings starting to slip away. My life is full and busy with so many little things. I probably won't run a successful business and I will probably only write for my own pleasure (stress relief). But all of that is beginning to matter less and less because I have been living my life as it comes each day. I've been learning lessons. It's okay to ask for help, even if it isn't a true emergency. Household projects take time and actually create memories. I also shouldn't really be waiting for the big strong guy, life is too short.

Being in my 30s without a partner or kids to raise? I never really predicted being here. But I am! I do think it's important to have goals and I have some that I would like to accomplish within the next year or 2 but sometimes life is what happens when I am knee deep in paint! I wouldn't really change it for anything!